Wow !!! everything makes sense … I find it very interesting. Especially the part where you mention marrying someone outside of your race etc.. I think if you love that person and that person is compatible to you..well it is you that will marry that person.

Like you said it is the upbringing that comes in because parents have different ways of raising children and different in reference to society.

I think what you have said is important and I have learned from it. I picked up on alot of things just by reading what you wrote, Good things though.

thanks !!!

Bebe

Though your question isn’t funny, I had to laugh because the same thing has happened to me more than once. A good question that I want to answer, do a good job of writing a concise, clear answer & when I’ve gone to submit it – the question has been removed! Oh the frustration.

Well, at least you put your very good reply to good use by asking the question again. I think life and marriage are hard enough without all the difficulties that a "mixed marriage" brings with it. Having said that and agreeing with everyone else’s answers, I have to say that you can’t control with whom you fall in love – it’s acting upon and making your decisions about the relationship that are hard. Some people go with their hearts and some with their heads. No one is in a position to judge others even though they do & some can take it and others cannot.

I think the hardest things to overcome in a marriage are different races; different religions and different values. I don’t think the messy vs neat, etc would really make a difference when you’re in love.

So, my answer would be that the biggest, heaviest rocks to carry are only for those that are the strongest; in mind, body and spirit.

The question: Is it wrong to love someone of another ethnicity?
That is a question that only the individual can answer. There are some cultures that to not tolerate that type of relationship and it results in the death of those involved. In that case it is "wrong", I would suggest that to continue to live is more important that love. I am sure that there are many who will disagree, but you asked for an opinion.
Having loved someone of a different ethnicity, I would say that the pressure that society places is very difficult and sad. The approval I received from my Mother was amazing, but her though as she was in the last few months of her life, was do you like him, to you talk to each other, and I have never seen you smile like you are now, it cannot be wrong, ignore anyone that says it is. Sadly he scummed to the pressure of his adult children. Was it wrong, no not wrong but it was not the brightest thing I have ever done. It was 18 years ago and I have yet to meet any one that my Mother would have asked the same questions about or could have said that my smile was as it was then.
Am I happy with my life – I am content and the person in my life is kind and loving, to we talk – no really. But we are of an age where neither of wants to be alone. Oh sorry, that is another response to a question that was not asked.

I don’t think it is at all

Wow, Ted, you certainly generated some interest with this question. That you were able to compose an answer in 30 minutes is a tribute to your wit, charm, compassion, wisdom, and diplomacy. It would probably have taken 30 days for me to come up with an answer half as good. My feeling is that basically all marriages take work, some take much more work than others. The partners of a marriage need to think about how long and how hard they’re willing to work for its success. My hubby and I have been married for 43 years, same ethnicity, same
religion, same race. He’s a scientist/engineer and I’m a humanist and educator. We have very diverse viewpoints on child raising. We’re currently raising grandchildren. We do love one another, but I’d have to say that it still takes work to maintain that love and marriage till death do us part. You gave a great response. I hope they heed your words.